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Let’s talk more about weddings, the real the ugly, and the truth. When it comes to wedding planning, I have heard it all. But the one REAL thing is that you have to do what is right for you. That's where the real magic of your big day lies.

For example; there were a few things that are considered traditions that we didn’t do at our wedding because they didn’t feel right to us.

Substitute the “ring boy.”
Unfortunately, the ring boy we had in mind for the wedding couldn’t make it along with his family. So instead of finding a new ring boy, we decided to have my husband’s grandparents hand us our rings. They have been married for 58 years and it was such an honor to have them participate at our wedding and set such an example of a long-lasting union. It was a surprise to our guests and such a unique touch to our ceremony.

2. Skipped First Look

This was something my husband and I both knew we wanted to skip. My husband wanted the first time he saw me to be walking down the aisle. And I wanted to honor that so we skipped the first look. BEST DECISION EVER. Emotions were so high and tears were everywhere. I know traditionally, first looks can provide an intimate moment between you and your soon-to-be husband or wife but you will have many more moments! Ivan and I had a moment alone after the ceremony while everyone was enjoying the cocktail hour.

3. No Cake-Cutting

Not only did we not cut our cake, but we didn’t have a real cake at our wedding! We had a wedding by the beach which makes it hard for a cake to survive in the tropical weather. So we opted to have a camouflage cake and had our real cake handed to our guests from the kitchen during dessert time. My husband and I are not dessert people so having or cutting a cake was not at the top of our list. It also gave us more time to enjoy the party!

4. No Confetti toss

We skipped any kind of toss at the end of our ceremony. I did not want anything coming out in pictures, or being thrown in my hair, or my husband’s hair. I am sure guests have fun doing so and it can be symbolic for some people. However, it wasn’t for us. No regrets.

5. Solo Bridal Party Entrance

I decided to have the bridesmaids and groomsmen walk alone down the aisle vs in pair which is def, not traditional. However, given that we had a relatively smaller bridal party (4 bridesmaids & 4 groomsmen) we wanted to extend the ceremony entrance. It worked out perfectly and gave everyone in the bridal party the individual attention they deserved.

6. Skipped Garter Toss

Another tradition we skipped because I just didn’t feel it was something meaningful for us. And to be really honest, it makes me uncomfortable and that day is not a day to feel any discomfort! We used the time to party the night away which was def more of a priority to us.

The takeaway of this post is to do what feels right for you and your partner. You can create your own traditions and make them more meaningful.

Comment below what traditions you will or will not be following in your wedding!